“Shame festers in dark places.
The more the family hides, or denies, that their loved one died by suicide,
the more the shame will grow inside of them.
By keeping the suicide secret, they are buying into the idea that their loved one
did something shameful, and that it brought shame to them.”
That’s a quote from Dr. Stacey Freedenthal, a researcher, author, and suicide educator.
It sounds academic.
But imagine if the very day you found your beloved husband of 31 years
dead by his own hand, you were convinced to keep his suicide a secret.
That’s Deb Sherwood’s story.
And it’s a lesson for all that secrecy breeds shame, and light allows healing.